“I want what you have.”
Have you heard these words before? Maybe from a friend or coworker? They’re powerful words, but can be destructive. For both parties.
Have I lost you? Don’t worry. Keep reading. I’ll explain.
I remember the day I heard these words from my son. One day, we were discussing love and marriage, and he looked me square in the eyes and said, “I want what you and Dad have.”
I have to say, I was speechless. Don’t get me wrong. I would love my son to “find” true love, but (yes, there’s always a but) what I have with my husband didn’t happen overnight. It’s taken twenty-six years and continues to grow each day.
Now, let’s take a step back for a second. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to admit…to anyone. As much as I love my son, in reality, I don’t want my son to have our life. Don’t get me wrong, I adore my husband and wouldn’t trade one day of my life with him. And he knows it.
But the last thing I want is my son to watch the woman he loves suffer unbearable agony on a daily basis. Or experience inexplicable seizures and migraines. Or wake up to a broken body at the bottom of the stairs. Or nurse her through pregnancy and wonder if she or their unborn child will make it through a long, wrenching labor. Or sit through surgery after surgery only to discover another looms in the near future.
You see…on the surface, someone else’s (even your parent’s) life seems great, their love indestructible. But it doesn’t begin that way. The day I married my husband, I was a young, nineteen year old, naïve and ignorant of the world. He was twenty-five, an apprentice struggling to make ends meet. We were in love and thought God would save us from anything. Instead, He taught us to trust Him and each other. The hard way.
I don’t want that for my son or any friend. It would break my heart. I pray no one, especially my son, walks our path for love. Yes, our love is strong, but it came at a price. All relationships have them. And all require sacrifice.
What do I want for you (and him)? For the Lord to work in your life as He will. For you to open your entire life to Him and not needlessly covet others. The Lord has great plans for each and every one of us. Stay in His Word and pray. He'll reveal His will for you. Don't sacrifice Him for anyone else. Pursue your dreams and let God lead you in the path of righteousness. Never give up and never give in, even when it hurts. And above all, instead of "I want what you have," I want to hear,
“I want God.”
James 4:2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask.